20 Jul 2013 @ 1:30 PM 

Anchor2When my father died, I think I went through a period of severe disorientation. An anchor in my life had been cut loose and I was drifting with the current. In a way, I still am. But in February, I was more of a wreck than I appeared to the rest of the world.

So when I got a call from my old manager at Sam’s Club offering me a part time job, I took it. It was different anchor that forced me to get up in the morning and gave me some structure in my life that I had not had for a while. But with everything, there is a price that must be paid, and the price for me was my business. I was earning a significant amount from posting Warrior Special Offers and New WordPress Plugins on WPPluginGuide prior to getting the job. Since I no longer had the time to post new offers on a consistent basis, the traffic to those sites dropped and the sales slowed to a trickle. So by renting myself out to Sam’s Club, I found myself losing money.

Yet I was finding it difficult to cut away this new anchor. I would fight management on a daily basis because I was getting scheduled on Sundays (family and football day) and they were scheduling me 5 days for 20 to 32 hours. It really irritated me driving 42 miles one way to work 4 hours. Yet the anchor was still attached.

stormbrewingIt took an incident that was totally out of character for me to finally break through the anchor’s lines and cut it completely. I was told to go work an area of the club that is physically difficult for me because of my arthritis. I have done it before without question when asked nicely. But I was told by a 20 year old co-worker who had not even been working there as long as I had been. And I totally went against every fiber of my being and rebelled to the point that I told him I was not going to do it and then went to management.

All would have been well, though, if management had followed through immediately. But management is one of those jobs that puts so much on the plates of the people who choose to take them on that they do not have (or make) the time to go talk to the people they need to until it is too late. It wasn’t until I walked in and told the manager in charge that I was giving him my 30 day resignation that he finally took action.

I had gone to him earlier and asked if the co-worker was my supervisor, because being ordered to go work where it physically hurt me was not something I was going to do without being warned about it ahead of time. He and the supervisor for the evening agreed that I should continue working my regular area and for me to tell my coworker that he had said that the coworker should work the area that he had told me to work.

I told the coworker that the manager had said the I was working my area and that he should be doing the other area. At that point, if the coworker would have just gone ahead and done the job, all would have been well, but he decided to do anything else that needed done EXCEPT for the area that he was supposed to be working. So toward the end of the shift, the manager and supervisor were discussing the state of the club on the radio and realized that nobody had been working the dreaded area that neither I nor the coworker wanted to work.

At that point, the supervisor called everyone over to that area so that we could work it as a team. And again, if the coworker in question would have chipped in, I might not have cut the anchor line… but he chose that moment to go work with paper products. Which left the rest of us to work an area that should have been done by either the coworker or myself. In retrospect, I think I was close to going over and doing it just so the rest of the team would not have to, but once I heard the manager and supervisor discussing it on the radio, it really cemented the deal, because that should not have been a surprise had they been paying attention.

That is the point when I walked in on the manager and told him I was resigning and stormed back out.

I have to question my motives that evening. Did I rebel because someone younger than me was giving orders? Almost all supervisors are younger than me, but this kid was not a supervisor (yet). He is today, as his promotion took effect at midnight tonight… but why should it bother me? Part of it is the fact that I know what being a leader is all about, having supervised in the past. It is putting the team above yourself. I was not being a leader last night. But neither was the kid, who used his up and coming position to wield power he did not know how to control. One does not order people to do things, one asks people to do things. One listens to others (like when I told him that it physically hurt me to do that job) rather than ignore it. (Later on, he was still telling the manager and supervisor that I had not told him that it was painful for me to do that job)… and one jumps in and does a job when the team needs a job done, especially when the rest of the team is forced into it. His choosing to do the paper towels and toilet paper instead of joining with the rest of us showed me that his leadership skills were questionable.

kylie-day1I am not perfect (I learned that many moons ago) but I also know everyone believes I am. It is something I have worked hard to perfect… try to predict what someone is going to need and then take care of it for them. That is why customers have always looked for me to help them. That is why other associates are happy to see me scheduled with them. My uncharacteristic turn toward anarchy appears to have come out of nowhere, but I think it came from the birth of my 2nd granddaughter, Kylie, who made her mommy work hard to bring her into this world.

She became one of my new anchors. She and Chloe, my granddaughter from 15 months ago have replaced the anchor I lost with my father. I believe it took two little anchors to replace the strong and sturdy one that my father had been in my life. The last 5 years of his life, I had been there when he needed me, because I had released Sam’s Club from my life back in 2008.

Anchors are important, because they steady us when the storms are brewing and keep us from drifting away aimlessly when we are at rest. I plan on refocusing my energy into some positive areas where I will impact people who need help building a business or growing an income stream to help them replace a job. Some anchors are good, like the family ones, but some anchors are keeping us from enjoy life. When the anchor line becomes too rigid and cannot be adjusted with the tide, it can actually pull a ship below the surface and sink it. I believe that at first, Sam’s Club, as an employer, was a good anchor, but now it has become a harmful anchor. Luckily, I cut the anchor loose in time (again)!

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 09 Feb 2013 @ 9:53 AM 

While I was at the ER with my dad yesterday, I was 
thinking about how he had gotten to this point.

Pneumonia was making it almost impossible for him to
breathe and kidney failure was making it difficult for
his system to clean itself out.

As he was telling the doctor in the ER that he wanted
to live, it struck me as odd that he had been behaving
as though he had wanted to die.

For the last couple months, his appetite had disappeared.

He was losing weight rather quickly, and it was not 
uncommon for him to take two bites of something and
say he wasn’t hungry.

When your system is not getting the nourishment it
needs to survive, it starts breaking down muscle from
your body to get protein. The organs don’t get much
in the way of nourishment and struggle to do their jobs.

Then, in the last few days, he had stopped drinking.

No water, no coffee, no tea. Once in a while he would
take a couple sips to get his medicine down. But not
enough to give his body the ability to replenish itself.

So while he was telling the doctor he wanted to stay
alive, his actions up until that point had been trying to
kill him.

In business, we often do that to ourselves. We say
we want to succeed, but when we are left to our own
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     01 Nov 2012 @ 3:47 PM 

    Reprint from Social Net Effect News:

    People are freaking amazing! I love to be around them. Whenever I can manage my schedule to attend an event, I do so. Ken McArthur is putting on another JV Alert Live in Denver this month, and if I can make it happen, I am going to be there (right now, it looks like I may have to miss it, but I have not given up). But when I am away from events, I still need interaction with Millionaires (or at least 6 figuraires) to keep me on my upward and onward path.

    You see, your connections are crucial when you are growing. When you spend a lot of time around people who have high values, you tend to pick those up. When you spend a lot of time with people whose values are well below yours, you tend to give up some of yours. So when you look at your circumstances, sometimes a change of scenery is in order if you find yourself being the top earner in your social club.

    When you meet people that you can look up to, make sure you follow them on Facebook, Google+, Twitter and LinkedIn… this allows you to hear from and connect with the people who are most likely to influence you for the better. Interaction in this area is important, because the values and principals that will help you grow are not just absorbed by osmosis… you have to take an active role in the process.

    stockvault-colorful-buoys132422When I originally coined the phrase Social Net Effect, I didn’t realize that the net that you create with social networks is not only going to help you get new customers (or at the very least, new readers to your blog), but it is also going to help you become a better person if you take action and build relationships with the people in your circle.

    Let me explain what the original Social Net Effect meant.

    You post to your blog. If you only post to your blog and nothing else, you will get some traffic. Nothing huge, but still, you get a few readers. If any of those readers share your post (if you make it easier for them, like adding like buttons on your blog that helps) with their social media followers, you will get more traffic. Social networks are like huge webs (or nets) where the strands crisscross each other from one social network to another. I may follow you on Twitter and Facebook, and you may follow some of my Twitter friends on LinkedIn and Google+. As you branch out on multiple networks, and share your posts when you write them, the likelihood of someone new running across your blog increases exponentially. A friend of a friend will recommend your post to their friends and suddenly you have readers from people you have never met.

    Influence is very much the same. As you become friends with people you want to be influenced by, you also become influenced by those people that they are wanting to be influenced by. If I am connected to Ken McArthur on all my social networks, I will get the benefit of all the people he is also influenced by, like Tony Robbins. The benefits of interacting with the great people in your networks cannot be measured in income alone. Your time management, your work ethic and your reading habits will be influenced, simply because of the recommendations of others that you may look up to!

    So the Social Net Effect has a much bigger impact than I originally envisioned. I am influenced daily by the people I see on Facebook and Google+ (the main networks I check daily) and hopefully, I am influencing the people who see my posts. Which brings me to another thought.

    What you post on the social networks is going to impact someone. If you post crap, you are feeding crap to someone who may not be able to handle it. I know that when I talk about beer (a topic I talk about, even though I may drink a twelve pack all year), I may be influencing a recovering alcoholic to jump off the wagon. That is something I would not want to do, so I would have to temper my posts with that in mind. But, like I said, people don’t always think before they post. Wherein lies the problem.

    stockvault-rusty-fence131036I see people spewing garbage on Facebook and wonder how many people are being brought down to that level. Luckily we have control over what we see on Facebook. We can block offensive people, we can reduce the amount of posts from people we don’t want to be influenced by and we can choose our friends more carefully. Just like when we are hanging out with our friends at home, we don’t always make the best choices of who our friends are, and we have to work a little harder to overcome the negative influences of those people by finding more positively influential people to be around the rest of the time. The Social Net Effect can be both a great tool to help you grow and a trap to hold you back, it is all in how you use it!

    e=”Master the social net effect” href=”http://socialneteffect.com/news” target=”_blank”>Social Net Effect News:

    People are freaking amazing! I love to be around them. Whenever I can manage my schedule to attend an event, I do so. Ken McArthur is putting on another JV Alert Live in Denver this month, and if I can make it happen, I am going to be there (right now, it looks like I may have to miss it, but I have not given up). But when I am away from events, I still need interaction with Millionaires (or at least 6 figuraires) to keep me on my upward and onward path.

    You see, your connections are crucial when you are growing. When you spend a lot of time around people who have high values, you tend to pick those up. When you spend a lot of time with people whose values are well below yours, you tend to give up some of yours. So when you look at your circumstances, sometimes a change of scenery is in order if you find yourself being the top earner in your social club.

    When you meet people that you can look up to, make sure you follow them on Facebook, Google+, Twitter and LinkedIn… this allows you to hear from and connect with the people who are most likely to influence you for the better. Interaction in this area is important, because the values and principals that will help you grow are not just absorbed by osmosis… you have to take an active role in the process.

    stockvault-colorful-buoys132422When I originally coined the phrase Social Net Effect, I didn’t realize that the net that you create with social networks is not only going to help you get new customers (or at the very least, new readers to your blog), but it is also going to help you become a better person if you take action and build relationships with the people in your circle.

    Let me explain what the original Social Net Effect meant.

    You post to your blog. If you only post to your blog and nothing else, you will get some traffic. Nothing huge, but still, you get a few readers. If any of those readers share your post (if you make it easier for them, like adding like buttons on your blog that helps) with their social media followers, you will get more traffic. Social networks are like huge webs (or nets) where the strands crisscross each other from one social network to another. I may follow you on Twitter and Facebook, and you may follow some of my Twitter friends on LinkedIn and Google+. As you branch out on multiple networks, and share your posts when you write them, the likelihood of someone new running across your blog increases exponentially. A friend of a friend will recommend your post to their friends and suddenly you have readers from people you have never met.

    Influence is very much the same. As you become friends with people you want to be influenced by, you also become influenced by those people that they are wanting to be influenced by. If I am connected to Ken McArthur on all my social networks, I will get the benefit of all the people he is also influenced by, like Tony Robbins. The benefits of interacting with the great people in your networks cannot be measured in income alone. Your time management, your work ethic and your reading habits will be influenced, simply because of the recommendations of others that you may look up to!

    So the Social Net Effect has a much bigger impact than I originally envisioned. I am influenced daily by the people I see on Facebook and Google+ (the main networks I check daily) and hopefully, I am influencing the people who see my posts. Which brings me to another thought.

    What you post on the social networks is going to impact someone. If you post crap, you are feeding crap to someone who may not be able to handle it. I know that when I talk about beer (a topic I talk about, even though I may drink a twelve pack all year), I may be influencing a recovering alcoholic to jump off the wagon. That is something I would not want to do, so I would have to temper my posts with that in mind. But, like I said, people don’t always think before they post. Wherein lies the problem.

    stockvault-rusty-fence131036I see people spewing garbage on Facebook and wonder how many people are being brought down to that level. Luckily we have control over what we see on Facebook. We can block offensive people, we can reduce the amount of posts from people we don’t want to be influenced by and we can choose our friends more carefully. Just like when we are hanging out with our friends at home, we don’t always make the best choices of who our friends are, and we have to work a little harder to overcome the negative influences of those people by finding more positively influential people to be around the rest of the time. The Social Net Effect can be both a great tool to help you grow and a trap to hold you back, it is all in how you use it!

    Tell me about some of the more influential people in your life – either on Social Media or in real life.

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       13 Sep 2011 @ 9:41 PM 

      I was impressed to see my cousin, Yves Ouellet, named as the head of the FTQ, the most powerful construction union in Quebec. Of course, he got to spend an awful lot of time in front of TV cameras this week, as the provincial government is in the process of taking over some of the responsibilities for saying how many and which workers are assigned to a construction project.

      Quebec government cracks down on construction unions, curtails

      Yves Ouellet, director of the construction wing of the Quebec Federation of Labour, said the measures are "like using a sledgehammer to kill a mosquito." He pointed out that the large unions have input in the hiring of about 15

      Publish Date: 09/12/2011 17:34

      http://canadianblogs.net/quebec-government-cracks-down-on-construction-unions-curtails-powers

      I remember Yves as the comedian of the family, and his ability to talk about any subject as though he knew it inside and out. We lost touch for all of 30 years, however, as I spent a good portion of my life isolated from my Canadian family, mainly because of I was embarrassed at my station in life (I expected to be much more successful than I currently was) and had no money to travel.

      Luckily for me, my dad was the guy who kept in touch with everyone, he is the great communicator. He can find out what is going on in every segment of the family. So at least I was finding out here and there what was going on. But on this trip to Quebec, the news helped me catch a lot of what is going on in Yves’ life, because his job as the director of the FTQ (Quebec Federation of Labour – Translated from Fédération des travailleurs et travailleuses du Québec) makes him the spokesperson for the union whenever the press has a question for the union. Luckily for the union, his quick thinking and his ability to speak well have made him a celebrity of sorts on all the news channels.

      I was hoping to find a video or two of him speaking to the press, but youtube did not have any.

      But while the stuff is hitting the fan for the unions, at least I know that my cousin has it all under control on his end! Way to go, Yves!

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         13 Sep 2011 @ 8:01 PM 

        A social media star recently took his own life after struggling with depression. I call him a star because he was well respected by many in the social media community. In hindsight, many who went through his final hours on Facebook say they could see a man who had already made up his mind that his life was over. But how could we as a community have prevented this?

        Depression is something that we have all felt. It is a sinking feeling within our very souls, that we are lacking something we desperately need to give us joy. Sometimes it is a chemical imbalance. Most of the time it is just hormones or a consistent programming of our subconscious mind to believe that we need something to make us happy.

         

        That still leaves us with the question: Are women really more depressed than ever?

        Professor David Healey, director of psychological medicine at Cardiff University, thinks this is unlikely. Instead, he says, the leap in prescriptions for antidepressants may be seen as a triumph for drug company sales departments.

        http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-2036632/Why-women-depressed-Is-real-epidemic–result-cynical-marketing-drug-giants.html

        Drug companies have been trying really hard to make us believe we are more depressed than we should be, and that it is a medical condition. I went through a depression in the late 90’s, and the doctors tried using drugs to help me. The drugs made me numb to the world. They did not cure my depression. When they tried to switch the drugs on me, I almost had a nervous breakdown, and I actually had suicidal thoughts. The real cause was the way I was handling my relationship, but I did not want to blame myself for a failing relationship. Much better to just take the drugs.

        Until I tried to take myself off those drugs. It took over 6 months, and my legs felt like they had electrodes pulsing electricity through them every few minutes. The sensation was terrible, and it took a long time to go away.

        I wish I had had an opportunity to attend Celebrate Recovery back then. It wasn’t until I attended CR in 2008 that I actually got over my depression. I had mostly gotten away from it because I had thrown myself into my online work from 2007 onwards, and because I was too busy to think about it, I didn’t suffer from the intense lows that I used to have.

        Every once in a while, I would come close, but usually getting in touch with one of my friends online would help me through it. But Celebrate Recovery helped me accept that I am not perfect, and that I can fail and still get up and brush myself off and try again. I never again thought of giving up.

        Which Brings Me Back To Today

        Yesterday I got some bad news. I felt like I had gotten kicked in the stomach. The worst part was it came when I was away from home, I am in Canada to help my parents get packed up and then we are going to drive back home to Florida. But this bad news felt like a sucker punch.

        Of course I could have seen it coming. It was all my fault, but when you pretend the problem doesn’t exist, you kind of hope it will go away. Mine didn’t go away in the way that I anticipated. The reason for the problem went away. So now I face the prospect of the drive to Florida to an empty house when I get home. I will survive, but I will definitely have to remember to forgive myself for my failures and dust myself off… because I will most certainly go on!

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